Monday, 6 May 2013

going home !

This post has had many versions, and has been going around my head for months. I have put off writing it many times, because I didn't really know what to say, and because it's going to be pretty boring reading.

It was originally going to be called The Good, The Bad and The Ugly and was going to contain a lot of vitriol but time is a great healer, and really I can't be bothered with all that anymore.

Suffice it to say, I do not live with the old geezer any more. It just didn't work out because our timing was all wrong.
When I was besotted with him, he didn't quite feel the same, and when my feelings started waning, his were increasing.
We actually finished our relationship last summer, but decided to stay living together for financial reasons and because we still got on.

At Christmas, things just became too much. He had been Skyping a lot of people through an adult game called Second Life. When I say adult, I mean adult and I hadn't realised that he had been having online relationships for about a year.
It wasn't very comfortable, living in a house with a man who thought he was in love with a 27 year old in Tulsa, Oklahoma, when all I could remember was how he treated me at the beginning of our relationship. He seemed to be more in love with a girl that he had never met, than he ever had been with me.
Btw, the old geezer is 62 !

It sounds a bit ridiculous because I wasn't in love with him any more but as I said, it just became very uncomfortable. Luckily I have a house of my own that I rented out when I moved in with the old geezer. Twice I have nearly sold it because of finances, but managed to keep hold of it. In January I gave the tenants two months notice, and moved back here on the 1st March.

The old geezer's three-bedroom house

My two-bedroom house

It's a much prettier house than the old geezer's, I can't really believe I moved out of here in the first place.
I spent a couple of weeks sorting it out, and then my lodger moved in, because I can't afford to live here on my own.
And therein lies another little drama !

My lodger is my 52 year old brother. He had been living in a bedsit (one room, a bathroom and a kitchen) in our home town and was pretty miserable. He moved in on 28th March and it hasn't been that easy, and is another reason why I haven't blogged. He has his own issues, so I'm not going to tell his story here, and also I started this post about two weeks ago, so I just think I need to post it !!!
Work is really waring me out at the moment, but I really do miss everyone in blogland, so sorry I haven't been around and hopefully the next post will be prettier.

Btw, the 27 year old in Tulsa, turned out to be 44, married and with six kids. The old geezer and I are getting on much better as friends and behind that blue door I have had so much fun arranging stuff, so life is looking a lot better.

Fiona xx


  1. We have wondered where you've been, Fiona! Bliss is going to be so happy you're back! Old geezers are just that--old. The problem is that they WANT to be 21 again, and therein lies the rub. I love your cute house and can't wait for you to show us the pictures of the inside!!

  2. Welcome back Fiona! I've thought of you often during your absence and hoped everything was alright with you. I'm glad you kept your charming house all this time and are having fun "nesting". I'm also glad things are looking up for you. :)

  3. Does this mean he won't be coming here to help with my renovations? Sorry, but I joke about stuff like this. I've been there, felt the pain, fury, etc. and still found parts of it ridiculously funny. Right after the crying jags, that is. Actually, the crying jags were funny once they were over. So, I'm dying to see what is behind that blue door!

  4. Oh Fiona! I'm so sorry to hear about the drama you've been experiencing. I'm glad you're in a happier place now. And I think your place is really cute! I can't wait to see what you've done inside. I too have lived with my brother as adults and it's a very difficult position to be in. I hope everything works out for you!

  5. Ah Linda - sounds like life's been a challenge! Hopefully good things are coming your way! Glad you posted!
    Peggy @ The Painted Pear
    p.s. can't wait to see the decor behind the blue door!

  6. Fiona welcome back! So good to hear from you again. That game "second life" I've played that before, it can become pretty addictive. But fall in love with someone you've met only his avatar? Anyway, maybe it's better this happened so you could sort things out and choose what's best for you and move on with your life. Good to have you back!

  7. Fiona!!! Girl I have been worried! I have so missed you and I hope you're feeling a bit more settled - sending love and hugs xxxx

  8. Oh my Fio! Glad to see a post and happy to hear things are arranging themselves. But yeah, you know I'm laughing about the 44 year old with six kids, not that you wanted to laugh, but at least you get to have the last one at the geezers expense. So do tell are you closer to Pandy now? Are you at the cafe? Good things are coming for you, I know it.

  9. So pleased all is now ok, I have missed your posts Looking forward to seeing your projects again. CJ

  10. Hi Fiona, you are my new discovery, so I'm pleased you're back. I hope your new start in your own home will work out well and I wish you all the best. I also hope it gets your creative juices flowing. x

  11. So glad that you are moving on and making a new start. I love the blue door and can't wait to see what you are up to. BTW this old geezer (is geezer only an old man?) is 64.

  12. welcome back, fiona! wishing you a beautiful new start on life:)

  13. Glad you are back now and that life is sounding much brighter for you. Wishing you much happiness and good health behind the blue door!

  14. You are starting a whole new life that´s looking very very good!!
    Changes are always for better!!!
    Good luck and be stong!

  15. You are starting a whole new life and it´s going to be fine! All changes are always for the better. Good luck and keep strong!

  16. I'm so glad you are back my dear friend from across the pond. I've been checking regularly so please know I was very happy to start seeing you again in comment sections of blogland. I'm sorry that you have had a rough go of it, but I have hope for your future happiness.

  17. Such a nice post, keep inspiring and best of luck with everything!!
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